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I think this gorgeous spring weather has put me in a romantic mood. I was just thinking about how I met my SO (at a party given by my friend's boss that I didn't even want to go to. One look at him and BOOM, that was it for me. This was in 2001.) Anyone else want to share their story? I love to hear how people met their soul mates/SOs/spouses/sweethearts!

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milehighstyle (Linda)

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I took a job transfer from Massachusetts to Denver in the early 90's and my now husband worked in the office that I transferred to. We worked together, had a shared group of friends, and played softball on the same team for about 2 years before we started dating. By that time we had both moved on to different jobs but eventually worked together again when we were engaged/first married/had our son. We've been married 17 years this June.

Anonymous

It sounds like the Mile High City has been very good to you, Linda! That mountain air does inspire romance, and who knows, maybe softball does, too.

Maneera

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That's a really sweet story

I met my now husband at the gym. I fell hard!!!! I was home from college for the semester break....he was already in the army and was home to see his parents from his first posting. He was NOTHING like the boys at college....he was very down to earth, real & genine, confident and comfortable in his skin....kind of like a breath of fresh air.

We were "Friends" for the next 3 years. Mostly because we lived in different parts of the country and rarely were both visiting our respective parents at the same time. We stayed in touch as much as possible....we wrote letters (he was posted in the Himalayas and there were no phones there 10 years back).

Once he was back in "civilization" he told me he wanted just one thing in his life...and that was *not to be just friends*. We married soon afterwards. And he's still the coolest guy and the most handsome man I've ever met

ETA: We would be married 9 years this year.

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It sounds like you found a real keeper, Maneera. I think the absence really did make your heart grow fonder...and fonder...and fonder. Congratulations on your 9 happy years!

Angie

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SO sweet, Xtabay. Good thing you dragged yourself off to that party. It was life changing, to say the least!

Hah! Maneera. The gym. Love it. And you both love dogs too.

Greg and I were set up as a blind date by a mutual close friend (who we saw again in London last year). I was 17 and Greg was almost 19 - in 1987. It was love at first sight and we haven't been apart since the moment we met. Here we are 29 years later, and married for almost 20. We are the classic fairytale, and very blessed.

Barbara Diane

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Jewish dating service-before J date. She met each of us to make sure we wanted to find our spouse. Finding a straight Jewish guy in San Francisco at that time was not easy. I knew on our first date that he could be the one. It took him longer.

RobinF

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What a fun topic! My husband and I were set up by my roommate in college. She was dating a guy and kept saying I should meet his brother (they are a family of 9 kids) so we all went together to a Christmas party and never looked back. We've been married 31 years (and my roommate and BIL for almost 32).

Anonymous

Angie, a blind date? That is amazing. And I didn't know you'd been together that long. It's all too wonderful.

And matchmakers and roommates -- also known as Cupids in disguise! Well done.

Aziraphale

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Aw, great topic! I love reading these kinds of stories.

I first met my SO in first year university, very briefly, when we were both 18. I thought he was cute but he looked 13, and anyway, I was dating someone else at the time. I didn't run into him again until four years later, in my last year, when our social circles began to overlap. He had grown up! He was friendly and funny, with an infectious laugh. I hung out with him on a number of occasions and discovered that his relaxed, affable demeanour hid a sharp intellect (and, as it turned out, a driving ambition). This got my attention. I am a sucker for clever men. And he seemed to like me, so I decided to give it a go. I am far too cautious to experience "love at first sight" (although I think it's sweet that other people do), but I will admit to a very strong attraction, lol.

It didn't take long to figure out that he was also kind. This sealed the deal for me. Intelligence, humour and good looks have no value without a good heart.

Style Fan

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I met my husband in the Tim Horton's (coffee shop) parking lot. The coffee shop was in a town half way between where we lived. I had been visiting my sister and he was touring about. I stopped for a tea and talked to him. I said that I liked his car. I know zero about cars. But I liked him. Always a good pick up line with a man. Cars. That was November 2002. We got married December 2004.

JAileen

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My husband and I met at a monthly lunch for urban planners in our area. We worked for different cities. I had just turned 22 and it was my first month on the job. Now we've been married for 35 years. He's smart and funny and very kind.

rabbit

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I was studying abroad in Scotland as a university student. It was my first day there and I was very jet-lagged and disoriented, but the girl who had my room the year before knocked on my door and woke me up, and asked if I wanted to go to the pub. She said she was bringing two friends from her martial arts class. I remember seeing him and having a jolt of awareness, but immediately categorizing him as too good looking to be a good guy (based on past experience), so I mainly chatted with the others.

A week or two later I was hiking in the highlands with four guys, none of whom I really knew (my girlfriend had invited me along and then at the last minute had an emergency and couldn't go). I was following them across the side of a heavily sloped mountain, and I wasn't able to break the snow crust as easily as the others so was struggling behind them, but didn't want to slow everyone down. But 'that guy' noticed and came back and broke a trail for me across the rough parts. He was in fact a good guy. We have been together about 24 years.

MsMary

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So fun! I love all these stories!

Lovely Fiance and I first encountered one another maybe six years ago around the courthouse. I was married and it was strictly professional, but I liked his bow ties and blue eyes. Then I was transferred to a neighboring town for a couple of years and didn't see him. When I came back I was separated and joined the local Rotary Club and there he was. And oddly, I would see him around town from time to time -- me with my friends and he with his. There was some mutual flirting for what seemed like a very long time, and we finally started dating shortly after my divorce was final. And the rest is history!

Editing to add I had a list of qualities I was looking for in a man, and he checks all those boxes as well as a bunch of boxes I didn't even know I had!

Diana

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My husband and I met in college, although we went to different schools. I went to visit a girlfriend at his college one weekend, and, the evening before I left, a friend of hers stopped by her room to hang out. Turned out that his family was from where I went to college and he had actually just been up there for the weekend, where he had hung out with my roommate (they were acquaintances from high school). We hit it off right away.

We broke up after college, but got back together a few years later and have been together ever since. It did take us a looooong time (14 years from when we first met, much of that long distance) to get married though.

Barbara Diane

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This is fun!

Gaylene

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I was on a ski trip with my girlfriends and, as we were all novices, we decided we needed to take a lesson before we started riding the lifts to the top of the mountain--especially since there was this tall, Scandinavian instructor who had captured our attention!

We giggled and flirted with our instructor as he patiently tried to show us how to snowplow down the bunny slopes. Finally, nearing the end of the lesson, he took us up the lift to a higher run. He skied down a bit, then had each one of us ski down towards him. Unfortunately, when it came to my turn, another skier suddenly veered towards our group. I lost my balance, fell, and ran into our instructor, knocking him off his feet. I noticed him grimacing a bit as we got untangled, but he was totally nice about the mishap as he helped me get back up on my skis.

Later that night, at the local bar, we saw him limping towards us, with some of his friends. He introduced me to them as "the girl who had swept him off his feet". That was 43 years ago, and he still refers to me that way. But he did made sure I improved my skiing technique in the interim.

Anonymous

Parking lots, ski slopes, the Scottish Highlands -- love is everywhere, it seems. I love all your stories! Gaylene, congratulations on winning the heart of the injured ski instructor, that is quite a feat. I guess he's forgiven you after 43 years.

Lyn D.

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I was performing in a local musical and one of my co-performers invited her BF's best friend to the show, thinking we might be a match.
It wasn't love at first sight for me but he was very persistent!
We just celebrated our 25th Anniversary, so I suppose he is alright

bj1111

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adjoining offices. who says romance is dead?

Elly

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Kinda weird-- we met online, then in person through a mutual friend, then realized we knew each other from online!

I was looking for a hiking buddy after moving back to my home town after a few years away. He was recently divorced and looking to meet people to get out with (he had a demanding job with a really odd schedule that made meeting people hard). He had used an really old picture on his profile and he never asked me for one. We didn't arrange to meet until we were both invited to a party by a mutual friend and realized we "knew" each other. Then we went on the date (blind for him). I almost wrote him off (he was a mess- didn't tell me that he slept in an office chair after his night shift to make it to our lunch date) but his personality sucked me in.

We've been together for almost 5 years now.

Dottie

I was in grad school at University of Texas in the late 80s. A group of my classmates planned to meet me at "Wurstfest" - an Octoberfest in New Braunfels - after they attended a UT football game. It was a big group traveling by bus. I arrived at the pre-arranged time and waited, waited, waited. I must have walked around the festival grounds 20 times. This was before cellphones. Finally, after several hours, I decided they weren't coming and began exiting the tent. Lo and behold, the group was entering the tent at the same time I was exiting. My husband was a classmate's brother who was visiting for a few days from Virginia. Our eyes met and there was instant electricity! And to think, if I had left any earlier, I would have missed him.

P.S. The bus broke down and they had to wait for someone to come fix it!

Joy

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Like Angie, it was a blind date. Ours was set up by the boyfriend of my roommate, who was a friend of my future DH and brother of his recently ex-girlfriend. If you followed all that, yes, it was sort of weird. We have been married 46 years this year.

anne

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Lovely reading.

My DH and I met when we were undergrads through the Christian Union (ie a student club) which we both very involved with, and were on the committee of. Though good friends, we didn't get together until after I had graduated, possibly because either one of us was going out with someone else.

For several weeks he asked me to do something on a Friday night with him (with other people) and after that ask me if I was ready to go out with someone again (I'd had a recent break up) As I was pausing he hastily added "with me" and I said yes!

We've been together for nearly 20 years, and married for over 18.

Freckles

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What great stories!
I was fifteen when I met my husband babysitting for my now sil. I went home that night and told my older sister I had found the perfect guy for her. We saw each other over the years off and on when passing at her house but didn't start dating til I was 18 when she set us up without my knowledge. He lied about his age as I wouldn't have been allowed to date him then.
We dated for two years, were engaged another three and next week will be our 33rd anniversary. I still tease him every now and then that he's still too old for me.

Anonymous

Joy, 46 years?! That must be the greatest blind date of all time.

Dottie, I have been to Wurstfest. I do know that a lot of smooching goes on there. And how nice that the bus broke down so you could spend more time getting acquainted. That sounds like fate to me.

Elly, that's adorable that your sweetie slept in his chair so he could make it to lunch with you.

Anne, you were clearly meant to be together. It was just a matter of time.

Freckles, I think you knew from the start he was the special one. Congratulations on 33 years!

Ah, amore!

Eliza

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We met in college, introduced by a room-mate that I was paired with randomly. It was all over from the first day we had brunch in the cafeteria and chatted outside for hours afterwards. We were married 4 years later and it will be our 38th anniversary this year. We still keep in touch with the former roomie, who has lived across the country for decades.

Anonymous

Another point for roommates playing Cupid! I'm glad you're still in touch in spite of time and distance.

Gail

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So enjoy reading all these !
In 1984 I worked in a big accounting firm in London in the UK/US Expatriate Tax Group. We had a lot of communication with the New York office and there were year long assignments to the London office from New York. I kept hearing about this handsome american guy who was coming for a year. I hated the job and about a month after he arrived I had a new job and left. He came to my "leaving do " and we chatted and he was really fun and interesting . A month later we were both invited to a fancy dress party and he asked me out on a date. He took me to a beautiful restaurant in South Kensington called Daphnes. We were inseparable after our first date. He took me to Paris and all over Europe. His assignment came to an end and despite trying to extend his visa he had to return to NYC. We decided that I would try to find a job and move to NYC . He left in October and I travelled over thanksgiving. I went to 3 interviews at large accounting firms that he arranged for me in NYC. I got a job. I went home sold my car, all my possessions and moved in the January. (Now I have a daughter in her 20's I can see how hard this was for my parents as we were not even engaged at this point !)
We got engaged the following May and got married 2 months later. We have been married 29 years this July.

Laurinda

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