You are the kindest, most thoughtful group of women I've ever known. So I'm coming to you for advice on a deeply difficult and personal situation I've found myself in. This is going to get long, apologies for that.

A couple of years ago my mom requested me as a friend on Facebook. I didn't really want to accept, but felt like it would be a jerk move to not.

Over the couple of years, she's become slightly more active on fb. There have been several instances where she clearly doesn't understand the format and makes comments in the wrong places, such as telling me when she plans to arrive at our house as a reply to an announcement that I've accepted a friend request from someone she doesn't know. It's annoying, but I've brushed it off.

In the last 6 months, dh 's estranged mother became very ill. We haven't had contact with her for almost 20 years. This was not a decision we took lightly. It was done to protect our family and our children from a very toxic and mentally I'll woman.

When dhs mom's illness neared the end, my mother started friending her fAmily members. She's a grown woman, nothing I can do to stop that. Then she started responding to their grieving posts with things that I felt touched close to home and smacked of criticism of our family's choices.

I moved her to a special category so I wasn't getting updated on all her comments.

I waited until she was at our house for a visit and talked to her privately about the hurt her comments caused. She said she thought the comments were private, yet that makes no sense because she named the person she was responding to in the thread of someone else's status update. I explained to her that if she sees other peoples names then she is not talking to only one person. She apologized and said she had no idea. We talked about some other family issues and things from my childhood, etc.

Less than a week later I made a response to a friend's (not a friend in common with my mom, a stranger to my mom) status update about trouble she is having with one of her children, and my mom came along and commented, airing some personal things, and asking my forgiveness. I asked friends for suggestions of how to get around this problem. Since my friend's settings are to allow comments by friends of friends, it seems there's no way around it.

I sent my mom a private message and told her id have to remove her from Facebook. I feel terribly guilty.

It's been a couple of weeks and I'm hearing from my daughter that my mom is posting on Facebook saying Facebook made her friends with people she never chose and now she's lost family over this.

I need to call her today to try again to explain to her that she hasn't lost family and that it is not anything Facebook has done to her, but her own choices to make public comments about things I hold private, that drove me to my decision.

I know she likes having Facebook to receive pictures of family outings and updates on what we're up to.

If you've made it this far, any words of advice? I've thought of maybe suggesting we email instead of using Facebook. We've tried that in the past and her lack of computer knowledge made it tough for her. She's also super paranoid that people are stealing her banking information or putting porn on her computer through email.

Another thought I've had is to make a separate Facebook account just for her. I really don't want to do that, as I already have 2 accounts, one for work to link to my company's page I manage (definitely can't put her there!) and my personal one that I use to keep in touch with lots of friends.

Soooo, thanks for any advice or strategies you can suggest for this.