Haha yes, ever since one weekend in high school--we were standing around waiting for rides, in a fine misty drizzle and half the girls were saying "oh no, my hair is curling" and the other half were saying "oh no, my hair is going straight!" That's when I asked myself, "what is wrong with this picture?"
Since then, I have chosen to work with my fine limp straight hair. "Body perms" were out because it still would require mucho styling every day. My solution has been to wear it long and straight, because the weight kept it in line. My mother and son have the same hair, with shorter cuts (Mom often perms hers really tight and short), but both of them feel compelled to wash it or at least wet it down, every time they get up, even from a nap, because it sticks up so much (one reason I can't really do bangs).
In university days I saved up and went to the Vidal Sassoon salon in Yorkville. I asked for a cut that would make everyone else wish for straight hair like mine. The stylist did not disappoint; I ended up with a Wintour-like angled bob, blunt cut, that I've been trying to recreate ever since. (The stylist insisted on doing something different on my return visit, so I never went back again.)
For my wedding, my long hair was set in waves, with a ton of product. The pre-wedding day tryout proved it was a waste of time but I didn't have another day to spend at the salon experimenting. SO in the photos taken before the wedding, I sported a gentle curl, and afterwards it was stick straight.
Now that I am mostly grey, my hair has changed texture significantly. The white hairs have much more body, stand away from my scalp. So I am learning new rules of what works for me. i wear it a bit shorter (still to my collarbone), rarely wear it up or back (my previous default), and never touch it with a brush or comb, which brings back the limp stuck-to-my-head look. This suits my RATEness; I could never pull off sleek. I shampoo less often (I can easily go 3 days instead of 2), and recently have begun to experiment with applying conditioner AFTER I wash it; used to have to do this before the shampoo because it weighed my hair down so much.
Waiting for MsMaven's fine hair thread...