Thanks again for all your answers, I enjoyed reading each one of them.
@Twinkling
Yes, that sounds familiar. I do think I'm usually taking the safe route so I don't have to deal with any of that. It might be time to take some (controlled) risks. But of course it's easier to go for the things that you guess will work for you, when you have little budget to spend and want to be dressed decently.
@Ladywone
Sounds like you found a way to make it work for you! Awesome. And I agree with you about making things happen even without a big budget, to a degree. I can understand what Angie said too, but I do think you can go a long way if you're patient and put some thought into it. Of course it would all be easier if I had money to throw at the problem, but that doesn't mean I can't succeed even on a budget.
@Laura
Thanks for the commiseration! And yes, it's true that it's easy to get in a bit of a rut if you choose your clothes just for practicality and remixing possibility. Although I wonder if it really needs to be that way, maybe I'm just not creative enough yet.
@Approprio
I would be interested to know why you feel the need to focus and purge. Sounds like you're a mood dresser and your outfits seem to reflect you very well. Do you feel a disconnect with any of the things you're wearing? Or is it just that it might look confused to the outsider? Maybe one aspect of your style is the fact that it is eclectic, to a certain degree.
@Eva
Yes, I would say I pick my purchases more according to the current wardrobe. Of course I do have to keep wearability in mind, but it might be a good idea to keep the style fantasy more in mind as well. And that "top down" closet cleanout sounds like a good suggestion. I might do that, without really cleaning out the closet, but theoretically - to see where I want to go with what I have and how those pieces could work in that new wardrobe. I don't think I'm very far off in my dressing btw, but it's enough to feel not quite satisfied with a lot of my outfits in everyday life. I don't see a huge shift happening, but a lot of little tweaks, maybe.
@Suz
Ooh, I remember when Steph had you do that exercise... I recall something about houndstooth?! (You can tell me if I'm crazy.) This is a great exercise. Although I think I might have difficulties pinning just one specific outfit down.
@Marlene
Yes, availability is a big problem, I agree. I've been doing a lot of online shopping, even though I really would prefer to see things for real and try them on.
@Una
I think you're wildly successful implementing that strategy! I can always recognize your outfits as yours. Thinking about the spin your essentials should have is a great idea.
@Angie
I get what you're saying and sometime this really might be true, but I think I'm leaning more towards Ladywone's opinion that you don't need to compromise your sense of style if you don't want to. Sure, it might be more difficult, but I don't like the idea of thinking of a compromise as a necessity. And yes, I should think about some wildcards. But it's hard to think of spending on a wildcard if you're not feeling as if you have the basics down.
@Daria
Yes, that's true - there will be changes in the future and my wardrobe will probably change with it. That's just how it goes.
@Joy
I hate to think of you being anxious because of clothes! You're always looking wonderful. I do think I've always wanted to be more dressy, but at the same time I'm a practical person at heart and also have a little tomboy in me. I do have to find a way to bring those two apparent opposites together.
@Shiny
Yes, travelling a lot certainly doesn't make it easier... As for compromise and style - I actually don't think what you mentioned is a big problem for me because most things I'm drawn to actually work rather well on me. There's no aspect to my fantasy style that would never work for me. I'm naturally drawn to the colors that suit me best and I think my preferred cuts and lines mesh rather well with my figure too. Of course there are some tweaks necessary, but there isn't a huge divide.
@Caro
Wise words.
@Lyn
Well I could of course. But looking put together is more important to me, I think. Making some changes might be better to evolve my style, but I don't want to do it if it would mean being uncomfortable in between. I think it has to happen organically or it won't happen at all. Does that make sense?
@Summer
Yes, it's much more difficult if you have to keep on course over a long time, with planning purchases in the long run and everything. To me it always happens that I buy something that I think will work well towards my aspirational look, just to have it all change when I come to the point of buying the other items to go with it. If I've been successful the old item works just as well with the changed preferences. But sometimes, not so much. I do think this is getting better recently, though. I feel more settled in my likes and dislikes, now.
@Style Fan
I like the look of some Trippen shoes I've seen. Definitely not my style, but they're rather cool and I can admire them on other people. Shoes in general are definitely a problem for me too, I have wide feet and don't want to compromise too much on fit when I buy shoes.
@Staysfit
Yes, very sensible to work towards the mood you want, but implementing it in a way that works for your life. I definitely want to do the same, I don't want to end up with clothes that don't work for my life, just because I thought they were beautiful or because I looked good in them in the dressing room.
@Author Linda
YES! Having it look effortless. That's the key. And it's true, you can see when someone's just playing and the look isn't true to them. When I was a teen I was pretty much a tomboy and every try my friends made to put me into something more girly was unsuccessful. I could borrow clothes as much as I liked, I just looked off in things that looked perfectly natural on other people. Luckily I've now decided that the only person who's going to dress me is myself.
@Gaylene
Yes, that's true. And actually my fantasy looks weren't differing much from my reality looks, it was more that the weather wasn't cooperating or something. The whole fantasy vs. reality challenge was rather abstract to me, because I just can't imagine absolutely LOVING a look that I wouldn't wear in everyday life. Like I said a while ago, the love for my things (and my outfits) comes with wear. But the challenge made me aware that right now I'm just not quite where I want to be, with my style. Not far off, as I said to Eva, but the majority of my outfits just don't quite hit the right note at the moment. Off to read your mini-essay, now.