Yes Barbara Diane, isn't that a great question?
IIRC, at our first actual date-date, Mr Max asked me something along the lines of, "so what does your usual week look like?" and he got information about some portion of my most time-intensive income stream.
Aziraphale, back when I was dating, men who asked this question were very often coming from a place of insecurity and fear. Fair enough; they wanted to avoid an additional dependent. Their method of gaining security around this (asking directly) meant they're best matched to women who also prefer to be so direct. My vague or annoyed responses probably left them with the feeling they had dodged a bullet. While I felt the same, because I couldn't build a life with someone who colors the unknown with fear and worst-case scenarios. Reminds me of this:
http://forum.mrmoneymustache.c.....to-people/
Friends in some professions prefer not to discuss their work right away thanks to the inevitable requests for (free) consultations. Others, because of the always-the-same comments and questions. Of the people I know with the most interesting work, their jobs are also the least interesting things about them. So why not let the conversation unfold naturally?
Thanks Gigi, great topic. So rarely do people communicate about how we communicate.