Are You Having Fun Yet? - YouLookFab Forum

After reading Neel’s post today. “Musings on Sizing”….I got to thinking that for the first time in my life, I am enjoying fashion!

When I was younger, and thought I was “fat”, I held off on buying clothes…always waiting to lose that last 10 pounds. (What I wouldn’t give to be that fat now, ha ha). Then, I had children and have been a SAHM over the last 20 years—living in the ubiquitous yoga pants. I really, truly did not buy any clothes over that whole period.

Fast forward to two years ago, when I fortuitously stumbled upon YLF—What? Have fun with fashion at my current weight? After studying Angie’s posts and your WIW’s, I tiptoed into the fashion world.

I have made several mistakes (often costly), but I can honestly say that I am having fun! So, thank you Angie and you fab ladies for giving me a very fun hobby that not only elevates my confidence, but makes me feel connected to the outside world.

Have any of you had a similar journey? Are you having fun yet?

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Laura (rhubarbgirl)

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Veteran

Maybe a little bit too much fun! My budget is groaning this spring. So many attractive, wearable trends. So many sales and good deals...

Janet

Yep! I've had a similar experience, and I am having fun too. I'm so glad you are as well!

Joy

Definitely having fun after discovering Angie! Actually for the first time in my life.

cciele

Yup, same here, SAHM dressing and costly mistakes as well. An important lesson I learned here was to dress for the weight you are at now (although that can get expensive). Anyhow, I find as I get older I am focused more on what I want to wear and how I can have fun with it.

TraceyLiz65

I am having fun too! Love playing in my closet and sometimes can put together looks and forget the rest of the world!

sort of? I have fun when I have an outing to dress for. But honestly I'm not doing so great at dressing at home. This could also be a product of not living the life I want ATM, but regardless, I should be dressing for whatever life I'm living. I get tired of the lounge-in home capsule even though it's decent and not raggedy. I do take joy in putting together my wardrobe and planning purchases to make it work even better, but I'm not having much daily joy in actual wear right now.

NDMom

Active Member

Thanks for sharing the joy, ladies! Mo, I totally understand where you are coming from as a SAHM myself. It's fun to plan for outings and dates though, especially if you finally have some things that are fun to wear. I hope things change for you so that you can be living the life you want, but in the mean time that you rediscover the joy of dressing for yourself!

Thistle

Sort of as well. After dressing for a post-baby body, and now pregnant again, I find it a bit more stressful than fun sometimes.

Oh, Thistle, congrats on your pregnancy! It's definitely a challenge....but one with a big reward at the end!

Neel

Oh yes!! This is the best time of my life fashion wise! I am loving it! Angie and YLF are my precious finds! Without it ... I would have never traveled this far

I am so glad you are having fun too!

rabbit

I'm having (too much) fun. Partly because I need to wear my nicer clothes out and about (they don't work for work), so I don't want to sit indoors in scrubby things when it's sunny and lovely, and instead invent lots of errands.

Rabbit....that literally made me LOL! I do the same thing....invent errands!

Rabbit - you are a girl after my own heart! We should invent errands together I have invented one for tomorrow and almost all my WIWs say *for running errands* bwahahaha. Fishy eh?

moccomo

Member

Hi guys,
As a SAHM myself I getting sucked into buying for the kids and not for myself. Its a constant struggle. I went shoe shopping yesterday and ended up with a Gizeh style slipper, but it was in a fun pattern. I have flat feet so I thought this will be a great addition and hopefully no knee, shin and calf pain at the end of the day. In summary, yes, I guess you can say I am having fun. Still trying to maintain budget and practicality but look Fab while doing so. Carry on fashionistas.

Aquamarine

Yes yes yes! I feel so much more prepared for every occasion and can figure out how or if I should try a trend. For a long time before YLF (when my children were little) dressing was stressful and shopping was haphazard. I had lots of clothes but nothing to wear. Now I feel confident (most of the time) in my outfits and know how to shop and put together versatile, current clothes that work for my life and my persona.

Moccomo.....it's hard to balance the budget when you have kiddos to buy for too... So, kudos to you for buying some shoes just for you! Love your ending comment too! "Carry On, Fashionistas!"--exactly!

Aquamarine....isn't it amazing how dressing our outer self boosts our inner self! So glad to hear you are having fun too!

fuzzylogic

So glad to hear you are having fun, NDMom!

Having lots of fun here! So much fun putting together outfits and experimenting with colours, patterns, silhouettes and textures while incorporating mood, season, activity etc. It's like a big multidimensional puzzle!

My body has changed so much after being pregnant and breastfeeding (miraculous morphing bodies, anyone? Totally incredible!). And, my tastes in fashion have changed as well; five years is a long time in fashion! So, in large part I'm starting with a blank slate!

Carole

Yay! Applause applause. I felt too overwhelmed with all the choices and unsure about whether it was ok to wear a with b or this color with that color and so ended up dressing in a very boring way. Thank goodness for YLf, Angie and all the fab ladies on the forum!

Aziraphale

NDMom, glad you're having fun! I am too, although I've pretty much always enjoyed fashion -- but there have certainly been times when I've enjoyed it more than others. I was a housewife for ten years, so I can relate to what you say about wearing yoga pants a lot. I was particularly guilty of that in year-long period following the birth of each child, before I got back to (more or less) my pre-pregancy size. And that's just the thing. During pregnancy, and for a good solid year (or more) afterward, you don't fit your "normal" clothes (at least I sure as hell didn't), but the world doesn't take a fashion break with you. Styles move on. Plus, even if you get back to roughly your pre-pregnancy size, things might have shifted (my midsection will never quite be the same!). So I was kind of forced into a new wardrobe with each child. I only have two, and they are spaced apart by four years, so it was two trips through ballooning body and back, replacing my wardrobe bit by bit as I went -- two full cycles, because I was warned that if you don't get all the way back before your second pregnancy, it's next to impossible to do so!

But there's definitely something to what they say about "dressing for the body you have now". Even during pregnancy, when I felt my worst, body-shape-wise, it still felt good to work with it, and to find clothes that looked cute. Plus, there's always an upside. I felt swollen and gross, but I had great skin and hair!

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