OK, you all are THE BEST. This is why I love YLF. Solid information and therapeutic responses from people I trust. No judgment. Thank you!
kkards, I too have had the beginnings of this for many years -- but now it's starting to become more pronounced (I think hitting menopause and the corresponding loss of estrogen is helping the process along, unfortunately). I hope this thread helps you too!
Lisa, I had always just thought Botox was for getting rid of fine lines (i.e., on the forehead, which I also have but hide with bangs ;-)). I did not know it could be used for these issues as well. Very interesting. Part of me is also scared of injecting botulism into my face, and my surgeon friend would probably discourage me (she is very low-maintenance herself), but I wouldn't rule out trying it. Oh, and I have the lip lines too! Also quite a hereditary thing -- my mom quit smoking before she had me, and she still developed those lines as she aged. Mom was beautiful, but she also had the jawline issue and used to joke around about getting her face "done," pulling her skin back gently to smooth out the jawline. My sister has the same issues, and she is 10 years my senior. She had a consultation with a cosmetic surgeon years ago, but they would not consider surgery for her unless she quit smoking. Ironically, now that's she's been smoke free for over four years, she doesn't have the disposable income to pursue elective surgery now.
Una, I do remember that Mary had a procedure, and if she doesn't chime in here, I may PM her to learn more about her experience. Yes, I have the parenthesis! My husband says he loves how I look regardless, but when I smooth back my jawline, he tells me that if I really want to do something about it, to go for it, and he will be completely supportive. I don't really want to do this for people to notice some difference in me -- it would be for myself. In fact, I don't want people to think, "hey, she had work done!" I'd rather they think, "she looks good -- life must be treating her well."
Xtabay, I feel exactly the same way! It's funny, in some ways I feel like I'm aging well (I'm healthy and more fit than I was 10 years ago), but in others, not so much. Even though I mentioned how my mom had this same jawline issue, people guessed her as easily 10 years younger than her real age, right up until her death at age 80. I hope all goes beautifully with your procedure, and I would love to know how it goes for you and what your experience is like, if you would be generous enough to share with me. Like Una, I would also be curious to know about the process that led to your decision on the procedures.
Again, thank you, thank you, thank you. It means a lot to me to get your honest and constructive responses!