I agree with everyone here that your color is beautiful! But I understand completely about having to spend time styling it to make it look its best. That's where I'm at too. I'm only about 10% gray right now, and I'm sort of wishing it would come in more dramatically. My grandma had a gorgeous silver streak right in front that framed her face.
Right now I'm just focusing on keeping it healthy and trying out different styles. I of course like it best when blown out straight and sleek or curled into soft waves. But that doesn't happen every day, so I'm trying to find some pretty, casual styles that don't require too much work or heat styling.
Good luck on your journey. There's quite a few of us here who can relate and hopefully provide some support and ideas!