I have had some resolution today. After this situation I took the approach of just getting on with it, not getting close and not letting her bother me. At our mid winter forum two months ago she attended in a very angry mood, and stormed out, swearing at my husband, after spoiling for a fight. He went outside, spoke to her, and she shouted at him for another ten minutes.
One week later he wrote to her asking for an apology, in a very calm, conciliatory manner. We have had no response for seven weeks.
It is our club AGM tonight and I received an email today with her resignation from the committee, and some comments. She is still angry with me as there were several barbs, however it was calmer and she had realised there was no point her continuing her involvement.
She is a very angry person whom I do not want to be involved with. I hope her children still come to the club.
Thanks to those who shared their stories and wisdom.