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I don't know how I missed this post until now. I can only echo what everyone else has said. What a horrible discovery for you. I am so very sorry. But I'm very glad you will have a pup (and a lawyer) to confide in.
Gosh, life is difficult sometimes. Now there's an understatement.
Deb, I am so sorry you have to go through this. Heart-wrenching is an understatement I would think. Hugs to you and wishing you strength to come through this as untouched as possible. You are a strong and amazing person and deserve all the real love in this world, not this! Puppy sounds like the best thing right now!
Words cannot express what I am feeling right now. You are in my heart and thoughts. If there is anything I can do, please send me a personal message. I am a great listener and I've been there in the past. A puppy will help. Friends will help. Talking about it helped me (although it took me many months to "want" to talk about it). Be gentle with yourself above all else.
Deb, I so wanted to post when I first read this, but wasn't able to because of some tech issues. I'm so sorry and sad to read this. As others have said, he was really stupid and shortsighted and, when he wakes up and comes to his senses, will regret this for the rest of his life. I'm glad a new pup is in your near future; that's a very lucky dog.
So sorry to hear this Deb. You deserve better. An attorney and new pup sound like the right moves. Hope you take Mary on her offer for a visit when you can!
Oh, I am so sorry. This is devastating news, and I admire your resolve. It may be quite a good idea to exchange one "dog" for another - as you said, one is certainly much more loyal than the other. Be gentle with yourself, and above all, remember that his actions are a commentary on HIM, and not on you.
Oh, I am so sorry. I have been through this with friends and family and it is hard. Surround yourself with support and positive energy and be gentle with yourself. I am very late seeing this post so I don't know if you will see this but I recommend the book 'After the Affair' (though it is more for those who choose to stay together). Hugs to you.