A Pat on the Back

dustt

more skirts – more heels – trying not to be embarrassed of my over 50 knees!!

November 12, 2013 at 3:27 pm

Lynne

I added some bombshell to my work wardrobe by incorporating more fitted silhouette, keeping Mary the Queen of business bombshell in my mind as a style icon.

November 12, 2013 at 3:32 pm

Zapotee

Patting myself in the back by finally realizing that oversized garments can look good on me, in the right fabrication. I am not letting go on my bodycon jeans though.

November 12, 2013 at 3:32 pm

Zapotee

And also by realizing that my biggest inspiration is actually coming from Anime. I am the happiest when I am wearing something that drapes, hangs or falls like those anime garments.

November 12, 2013 at 3:34 pm

Diana

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Well, after we moved in June, I determined that I would start hanging up my clothes (the ones I wore and didn’t yet need washing, and the ones I tried on and rejected and tossed on the bed in the morning!) every night rather than chucking them on the floor or on a chair. So far I’ve been successful! Now if only I could get my husband to stop leaving socks on the floor… (And no I won’t pick them up for him. I categorically refuse to be his maid.)

November 12, 2013 at 3:45 pm

londonkiwi (now back in NZ)

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Rejoining the YLF community

Realising that two years after moving from London UK, back to NZ I am hanging on to clothes that no longer fit or are fit for purpose because of memories of my London lifestyle. Hanging on to some items for emotive reasons are good, but resisting buying new clothing is not.

November 12, 2013 at 3:50 pm

vipanchi

Active Member

This post can be a goldmine for newbies like me! And cannot go without a thanks to you Angie and this community you have brought together – within a couple of weeks the ‘epiphanies’ are really expounding! For starters, I cant believe how a couple of jackets have made a lot of my other blouses and tops wearable (the ones I like but usually avoid coz it shows off a muffin top or something to that effect).
Approaching my wardrobe through capsules, discovering holes, paying attention to colors that work for me, and treating this whole fashion fetish of mine(as I would have called it pre YLF) to be a serious business really – almost cathartic and cleansing!
Without getting philosophical about individual style though – if I were to list the top three things, they are:

1.That hundreds of styles out there than can make me look fab for my current body – and I dont need to wait to get a target size;
2. Accessories like scarves, belts and bags can really make a SIGNIFICANT difference ( I never invested in these before)
3. Pastels and neutrals can add as much drama to your outfit as colors do!

All of this is just still all cooking in the head and translating very slowly to changes in my wardrobe – cant wait to start posting and getting feedback to cut, prune and polish all of it with all of you fabbers!

November 12, 2013 at 4:00 pm

Thistle

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Fleece lined tights! They let me wear skirts in winter.

November 12, 2013 at 4:11 pm

pil

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I’m trying to embrace getting beyond the number on the tag and focusing on fit. And not trying to buy ‘everything’ on sale.

November 12, 2013 at 4:17 pm

Aziraphale

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Two things:

– I found a way to wear white shirts. I’ve always loved the way a crisp white button-front looks, but I don’t love the way I look in plain bright white. It makes me look a bit ill. But I discovered that covering up some of the white — so that only the collar and cuffs or sleeves show — totally works for me. So now I wear my white shirts with confidence underneath a waistcoat, sweater vest, shell or lightweight wool sweater.

– I am wearing my cool but dressy shoes. I have lots but always felt a bit silly wearing them when all I was going to do was work in my home studio and drive the kids around. Now I go to school and can wear what I like. Dressing a bit older than the 18-year-old students is actually desirable, and semi-dressy shoes is one way to accomplish that.

November 12, 2013 at 4:21 pm

gryffin

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Wow, great and thought provoking question. I guess for me there were several pats and epiphanies:
1. Keeping a list by month of purchases (what came in, went back out, what stayed)
2. Committing to my personal style – ie leggings, long jackets, tunics, texture, black/gray, oversized & fitted, silver, belts and booties and making it work for all seasons. That it’s all about what makes me feel great.
3. But better and buy less – my Helmut Lang 3/4 sleeve tux smoking jacket, and HL wool and leather blazer elevate every outfit.
4. Learning to delay gratification – that perfect black chunky aran sweater is out there somewhere and I’ll wait till I find it, no “B”players allowed.
5. Buy for real life but don’t forget to replenish the evening and suit capsules
Plus, I am really proud for cleaning out and purging every single closet in the house (including my husbands armoire and closet, son’s, foyer and basement) and donating everything that was better off in another home.

November 12, 2013 at 4:27 pm

Mia

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I only purchased a few items this Fall and all were to replace worn or dated items. I think I am finally, after 5 years of wardrobe analysis and rebuild at a point where my wardrobe “covers it” and only needs new items when things are worn or to refresh to current trends in fit and fabrication.

November 12, 2013 at 4:31 pm

Joy

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I so appreciate all the guidance and great advice I get here. Thanks to you I can pat myself on the back for finally buying well fitting colorful bras with matching knickers. I love wearing my sets. I even love washing them and seeing them drying they are so pretty and feminine.
I also have embraced boyfriend and sized up jeans and love the look, variety and comfort.

November 12, 2013 at 4:40 pm

Kristin L

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I’m patting myself on the back for getting rid of clothes I’m not wearing but holding onto “just in case.” And for understanding that a smaller wardrobe is making me happier.

November 12, 2013 at 4:43 pm

Jjsloane

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As much as I love the look of Beatle boots I hate them on me. I think I need a higher heel because of my larger feet? I sold my SE Petty’s to a well deserving YLFer (Ceit) and am free of the guilt I felt in not showcasing their awesomeness.
I also bought something I never would have before and don’t feel guilty about it. My Burberry coat will be with me for many years. It fits my style and I enjoy wearing it. It cost more than I would normally spend, but the construction is so worth it.

November 12, 2013 at 4:43 pm

Angie

(website)

Fashion Stylist

Yes, yes, YES. I’m thrilled to hear all of this. I’m patting your backs and proud of your accomplishments.

November 12, 2013 at 4:46 pm

Aquamarine

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For me it was making a conscious effort to put together a “special events” capsule. In the past I would wait for an occasion to shop and would never find what I needed or had to panic-purchase an item. This past year I identified the events for which I would likely need outfits (dresses, a suit, separates, outerwear, shoes) and committed to finding these items ahead of time. I am happy to say that I finally feel comfortable knowing I have outfits for most scenarios. Just enough, not too many, and mostly versatile for various dressy affairs. This was HUGE for me, since my day to day life is pretty casual.

November 12, 2013 at 4:53 pm

Beth

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I finally ruthlessly edited my closet. I’ve been doing it ever since I found YLF, but this time I really got honest with myself, including getting rid of the pieces that made me feel guilty because I’d bought them and then not loved them! I now have a closet that feels good when I open the doors. It makes it much easier to get dressed in the morning.

Oh, and I have a fab boot collection that meets all of my needs, makes me feel fantastic and will continue to serve me well!

November 12, 2013 at 5:01 pm

anne

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My biggest style acheivement was transitioning from SAHM to working full time. I am really happy now with the fairly small work wardrobe I have put together, partly from new items and partly from clothes I already owned.

November 12, 2013 at 5:01 pm

Laura (rhubarbgirl)

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In the immortal words of The Princess Bride: “let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up.” After losing 35+ pounds I by necessity have had to replace pretty much everything in my wardrobe, which has finally shaken me out of my habit of pretending I have an office job – I’ve been working at home for 5+ years! I think I’ve finally found a way to get the interest that I want in my wardrobes while being less out of place as far as what I actually do every day and my surroundings. (It’s easier when I’m skinnier, I have to say.) To get particular, this has manifested itself in the types of garments I’ve bought as well as required comfort level. I feel better about spending for casual days than I used to.

November 12, 2013 at 5:03 pm

Windchime

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I’ve made several significant changes over the last few months, all of them thanks to YLF and what I’m learning here. I’ve arranged my wardrobe into capsules and become wiser about clothing purchases. I think the biggest change is that I now carefully put together an outfit for almost every day, usually planned the evening before. This has helped my confidence more than I would have imagined. All it takes is a little time, and it’s fun!

November 12, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Parsley

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I’m pleased because I’ve lost over 35 pounds this year, and I’m finding it so much easier to wear the styles I like. I’ve had the mixed blessing of needing to replace almost everything: it’s fun, but expensive!

November 12, 2013 at 5:07 pm

shedev

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I have 2
1. The big purge, 180 items in about 3 days. This made me think about how I shop. Don’t want to creep back up.
2. Commitment to branch out beyond black footwear. Beige Clarks, taupe Aldos, navy Cons, grey Fergies, and teal Steve Maddens. There is something in burgundy in my future, then I think I’m sorted for shoes.
Great thread.

November 12, 2013 at 5:12 pm

E

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Oh what a marvelous post!

I think my big one is spending money on well made, supportive, durable shoes. I’m used to being very frugal, so buying shoes at $100-$200 a pair was a big struggle for me, even though I had the money and needed them. I ended up doing a mix of retail and ebay, and now I feel completely set for my lifestyle. I certainly wouldn’t go on a shoe buying binge again (I think I bought 6 or 7 pairs this year), but I’m thrilled and hope to wear them all for many years to come!

I’ve also become much pickier about not buying trousers or jeans that aren’t high enough in the rise, no matter how well they fit otherwise or how appealing they are. I always end up uncomfortable in anything less than a 9″ rise and it’s just not worth it, not even when they’re $3 at the thrift store!

November 12, 2013 at 5:14 pm

LACeleste

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The best thing I did was join this community and learn from all of you. I finally understand the importance of buying the RIGHT thing rather than many “close” approximations and am now the happy owner of a DVF silk wrap dress. Thank you!

November 12, 2013 at 5:18 pm

Archer

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Well again – let me count the ways,
Ha – yes the laundry spin off is great too. I have really refined my wardrobe but not really my style so much. Its just that I now appreciate i can feel good in my clothes ‘everyday’ and not have days wearing something just because I own it…(or used to)
It has meant that some items that have been neglected because I missed their potential have made the cut – a great shop your closet result.

I now also understand and can actually see how the silhouette on me is so critical to get right – short legs, long body and neck but overall medium height. Thats a bit of a pity because I love flats and have some fantastic ones……. PPL training has helped there though too.

Colours – more of them but much narrowed range
Explicit shopping – replaced constant.

Changed jobs. Don’t have to feel so observed on daily basis and so conservative any more.

A fantastic year for me really. Thank you so much to you and YLF because as you can tell, I learnt all that here.

November 12, 2013 at 5:35 pm

Transcona Shannon

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I really had to think about this before answering. I feel like I’ve accomplished a few things but I would have to say the most significant is I finally found a balance between trying new things but not to the point where I’m forcing myself to make something work that just doesn’t.

November 12, 2013 at 5:38 pm

Gracie

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I purchased and wore several brightly colored skirts and skinnies last year, then came to realize they are not me. I know the same would happen with patterned pants, so I will just admire them on others without being tempted. That realization has saved me a lot of time when shopping as I just look at items in my preferred neutrals, drab, and jewel colors. I also upgraded my lounge capsule this year to include what I call productive clothing: cool walking sneakers, cargo bermudas and crops, jean leggings and graphic, fitted, long- and short-sleeved tees. No slippers until just before bedtime or the whole evening is shut as far as accomplishing things, lol. I’m honing my style a bit at a time with inspiration from Angie and YLFers.

November 12, 2013 at 5:43 pm

Gigi

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Wow, I could list a lot of things. I think the most significant is that I really noticed how much emotional well-being can be affected by the clothes I wear. So I have come to look at clothes not so just from a practical point of view but from an emotional point of view, and I allow myself more money to spend on clothes because I see that it helps me develop emotionally as a person.

November 12, 2013 at 5:51 pm

vipanchi

Active Member

Angie, this is probably the wrong post to write this in – but it will be awesome if one can ‘like’ and ‘comment’ under each comment in FB style – I’ve been itching to do it with so many comments above, that I had to say it here! I think it may really be useful here and in the forum!

November 12, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Karie

(website)

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Well, I’ve had a few style epiphanies this year:
1. I can wear something semi-tucked and I can wear a top that is belted at the waist. Never in a million years would I have even tried this pre YLF. It is amazing to me that my protruding belly doesn’t make this look impossible to pull off. Must be some sort of optical illusion.
2. I have learned to take off the sales goggles and be OK with paying a few pennies more for good fit and fabrication (now where did I put that Black Friday ad?) O.K., I still stalk the sales but I am selective with my purchases.
3. The 4 F’s – fashionable, fun, and funky at fifty. My favorite outfits are ones that I’ve been mindful of the 4 F’s.

November 12, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Jamie

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I could highlight many things, but I think I’ll hone in on my footwear collection. I’ve realized my footwear is a key part of my style and often adds the needed punch to an outfit during months when it is too warm to wear my beloved jackets. I’ve concentrated this year on incorporating more non-black footwear. I still have black shoes, but these are no longer my first choice. More often than not, I choose a light colored shoe and just love them!

November 12, 2013 at 6:08 pm

Suz

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My biggest epiphany came thanks to Angie very early in the calendar year with my style descriptor: Urban Prince. Somehow that simple phrase has helped my purchasing fall into place.

This was a gift, not an achievement. Yet I think I needed to be a little ways along in my style journey to see it for what it was, so I will take a smidgen of the credit.

I do feel proud of the way I analyzed my actual needs and preferences within each season. This has resulted in some very focused shopping — and just like Angie — in an updated knitwear capsule for my work-at-home days in autumn/ winter.

My biggest surprise? I actually like shopping now!

November 12, 2013 at 6:12 pm

Sveta

(website)

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It was a nice surprise to learn that despite of what seems like a huge amount of buying new stuff over this year my wardrobe number stayed virtually the same. As I really like to keep my wardrobe manageable and wear everything in it on a regular basis this is a very important achievement for me.

November 12, 2013 at 6:17 pm

Jaime

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What a great post! My epiphany is against the usual wisdom and against my grain. A less expensive piece can suit you more than a more expensive piece. I have a lot of examples of that, the most recent being my Topshop Lanai. I learned this from Angie (I am thinking of our blue booties Angie :-)) and it has really opened my eyes.

November 12, 2013 at 6:27 pm

Mo

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I have to say, making my shopping list/budget for the year and sticking with it has been my biggest style accomplishment. I had a vision for where I wanted to go and how to get there, and following my own road map has been awesome with keeping me on course.
A very close runner up would be finally ‘allowing’ myself to buy a DVF wrap dress. Oh, the number of failed $20 dresses I bought over the years easily equaled what I could have saved and just gotten the dream item of my desire.

November 12, 2013 at 6:27 pm

Cynthia

(website)

Committed to a style that is seriously a Whole Lot of Style, but that is unique and that I really love. Invested some serious money in a “French wardrobe” buy and am now rearranging my entire wardrobe to fit around it.

November 12, 2013 at 6:28 pm

NDMom

Active Member

Recently my husband was out of town and I was home with the kids. So, what did I do? Online shopping, of course. BUT, once everything arrived I was able to see it for what it was….filling up time and loneliness. None of the items were a 10. So, I returned them all. Usually I would settle and end up with orphans.

So by sending all those meh items back, I was able to purchase one item on my wish list…..a wool, brick-red Burberry coat. OH MY WORD….now I know what Angie means when an item makes one’s heart sing! I love this coat….I feel confident and like a million bucks….(which it almost was, ha ha)

So I am patting myself on the back for learning PPP. The bar has been raised and my new coat will be a shopping standard. Is it a ten like my coat?

November 12, 2013 at 6:35 pm

Kari

Veteran

I dressed my best despite being at a job that I was miserable in, and dressed my best interviewing over and over until I got an offer for a job that I really enjoy. General, but huge triumph.

November 12, 2013 at 6:42 pm

sarah

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I think I’m becoming more of a perfectionist – I won’t settle for even slightly improper fit, and I’m also gravitating towards higher quality items. I’m probably returning even more of what I order, but I’m happier with what I end up keeping.

November 12, 2013 at 7:12 pm

Peri

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This year has seen major purging of things I held on to for years even once I was tired of them. It is still ongoing, so I don’t get to say I love my closet yet, but the journey of 1000 miles begins with the single step of cleaning out the junk.

Even today after posting those sweaters, I considered hanging on to those two “just in case”. They were sitting on the shelf and when I went in to get dressed and looked at them, my heart just sank. I knew that I would not voluntarily reach for them at any time this winter and even if I made myself, those days would not be high on the happiness scale. So I would say, even beyond the effort, my biggest pat on the back would be for realizing that I want and deserve clothes that don’t make my heart sink!

November 12, 2013 at 7:31 pm

Joyce B

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I am happy that I am wearing more varied outfits. If I don’t pay attention to what I wear everyday, I end up wearing similar outfits and they all look like a uniform. It took a while for my co-workers to stop staring and asking questions when they saw me better dressed than before, so I suppose they are getting used to it by now.
For me, my style journey has ranged from what I was able to fit into to being able to wear clothes that I enjoy and make me feel happier.
I am learning more every day from YLFab and from the forum.
Thanks Angie!

November 12, 2013 at 7:37 pm

MsMary

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After almost two years of shopping and spending like a drunken sailor, this year I have dialed way back and have gotten much better about buying fewer items that each pack a bigger wardrobe punch. So… patting myself on the back for practicing PPP.

November 12, 2013 at 7:48 pm

Runcarla

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Still on my style journey, and learning so much. Biggest discovery–how much white suits me! Biggest overall change, not settling for ‘make do’ items, but rather holding out for something that makes me feel good every time I wear it. Also, being prepared to spend a little more money, for a better product.

November 12, 2013 at 7:59 pm

amiable

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In the past year, I’ve learned to tell what fits, and developed the patience to hold out for clothes that properly fit. And I’ve decided that clothing is worth spending money on. I’m still cheap, but not as cheap as I was, and it shows. This is all due to YLF. Thank you Angie and all the friends here!

November 12, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Faith

Active Member

Probably not the accomplishment of the year, but I was just patting myself on the back for working through six months’ of accumulated mending and alterations!

November 12, 2013 at 8:43 pm

AviaMariah

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#1 – When I was pregnant last year, I purposefully had a small maternity wardrobe because I didn’t want to spend a lot of money on it. That helped me to get over the “fear” of not having a large enough wardrobe. Between a changing body this year, moving into a new house and a lot of YLF reading, I have been able to whittle my wardrobe down to fit into a small walk in closet; with lots of extra room. It has made dressing so much less stressful for me and has helped me identify wardrobe holes.
#2 – an epiphany I just recently had was when I read something Angie wrote about buying quality basics. That was a “ding-ding” moment for me. I love wearing simple outfits but I always felt okay spending more on statement pieces and figured basics were just boring so it didn’t matter the quality. So now I’m focusing on filling my basic wardrobe holes with quality items. We’ll see where that takes me.

November 12, 2013 at 8:55 pm

Lantana

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I am patting myself on the back for my learning journey.
I am being quite, though not perfectly, disciplined and have dropped the bad old habit of “making do.”
I am focussing on capsules for the different roles I fill and have come to accept my dominant season and role points to “summer country casual.”
I feel as though I am getting somewhere and that is a very good feeling.
All thanks to you Angie and the YLF style counsel.
Penny

November 12, 2013 at 9:04 pm

rebekahphoto

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I have done some major closet editing this year! I’m more focused on wardrobe holes, making items play well together, and really wearing the clothing that make me feel fab!

And A huge epiphany for me was to acknowledge (after seeing actual photographs of myself) what I have been ignoring, and to understand why I avoid many WIWs. After an extremely stressful last year, my health took a dive and the weight crept on. It is challenging to take photographs of myself and see a body I don’t know, one that does not feel like me. Its extremely frustrating when my closet is full of great clothes that don’t fit!

So after some PT and creating a health plan, things are moving back in the right direction. I have purchased clothing that makes me feel better in the body I have now, and have purchased quality items (boots! shoes! bags!) that add much needed variety to my wardrobe and will last into the future

November 12, 2013 at 9:16 pm

Tragic Sandwich

(website)

Two things: boots, which I finally bought after several years of looking (black leather, knee high, riding style, wide calf, low/no heel–not easy to find in my budget).

And organization, in that I just went through every item in my dresser and sorted it into things to keep and things to give away, followed by rearranging the drawers. Now I actually know what I have! Next up is the closet.

November 12, 2013 at 9:25 pm

MySmallWardrobe.com

(website)

Active Member

Wearing more gray color and following in love again with red. It is funny how fashion trends sometimes can change our mind about our preferences.

November 12, 2013 at 9:51 pm

tracina

I was thinking this year was a big fail because I still made some big shopping mistakes but when I think about the year overall it was a good one.
I purged like mad.
I organized, I took photos of every item in my wardrobe, which really helps when packing for trips.
I got through all my mending, tailoring piles and now take care of new stuff right away.
I WORE MY GOOD CLOTHES! Not always, but often, even when I didn’t leave the house and DH is the only one that would see me.

November 12, 2013 at 9:56 pm

Ginkgo

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I’ve accepted that my humdrum life means I need a good collection of jeans (straight, boot cut, boyfriend) and that I need to make sure that I stay with a current cut. Have expanded my shoe collection with low heeled animal ankle booties, black Beatle boots, and am considering mid-calf boots. I wear a lot more neutrals now and stick to my flattering colors, and am careful to choose patterns that suit me. And have bought a few more belts to liven things up. Basically I’ve identified Jennifer Aniston’s airport style as my goal.

My latest adventure is to play with make up.

November 12, 2013 at 10:18 pm

crow

Active Member

So many things, with big thanks to Angie and the YLF community. Good haircut, new underwear (well-fitting and color-coordinated bras and pants).
Then a closet clean out, with all the ill-fitting items banished. Shopping so that I had something suitable to wear for most occasions, making sure that everything was in flattering colors and went with other things. All very basic steps, all at a very 101 level, but enough that I feel good in my clothes (and that others notice.) And the surprising pleasure of a tidy and small closet. So thank you and thank you and thank you to a generous community, led by Angie! Who knows what’s next….

November 12, 2013 at 10:25 pm

Jeanie

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After a major life setback 3 years ago I had not been wearing much besides lounge wear. This year I started getting out to the stores and trying on loads of clothes. I feel I am slowly getting my life back though I have not purchased much. I am learning by trying things on and reading as much as I can on YLF. My biggest aha moment this year is that online shopping does not work for me. I have so much more success by actually trying on boatloads of clothes. And I bought my first pair of skinny jeans this year! Thanks Angie

November 12, 2013 at 10:43 pm

Nicola

Active Member

Mine was a style epiphany. My new and exciting (for me) style descriptor is Natural with Classic and a touch of Boho thrown in. I just love all those natural fibers, wood, stone, leather, cotton, denim, linen; that earthy, relaxed, sea &sand vibe – I’ve finally allowed natural to be my first and most important descriptor. I’ve discovered that although I am drawn to classic clothes, too classic is a bit buttoned up and formal for me. But add in a bit of boho and everything starts to feel just right. I’d always found a true boho look not me at all, so I hadn’t even considered it. I’m so surprised (and yet looking back part of me is not surprised at all) to find that a little touch of boho could well be the missing piece of the puzzle.

November 12, 2013 at 11:32 pm

KeepTheKey

(website)

Active Member

I’m patting myself on the back for realizing that, first and foremost, I’m the one who needs to be happy with my sartorial choices. If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy! I spent almost 3 years walking a tightrope, trying to please someone else, and I was miserable. Now I dress for myself, and my happiness is immeasurable

November 12, 2013 at 11:37 pm

T

Active Member

Over the last one year (from Sept ’12) I have shed sizes from a 16 / 18 to being a 2 / 4, so the last one year has been a big journey in terms of my style and trying out new items (pencil skirts, flared trousers, shirts tucked in, short skirts, dresses – all things I have never attempted before, ever! I was a jeans & top girl for the last 10 years!)

For the first time in years I have paid attention to what my style is, buying what seems like me rather than purchase whatever fits me and looks like it has space to accommodate more of me. There are both good & bad days tbh. Sometimes I still “feel” fat and lost. Learning how things should “fit” is a big problem. Until recently I was purchasing size 8 and refused to even try on a size 4, convinced that it wouldn’t fit. The size 8 would obviously fit me, and I am unable to recognize the signs of it being over-sized.

Angie, a request, if you think it is worthwhile, maybe YLF could feature a series on how different items of clothing should fit, for example shirts & tops (where does the shoulder end? what about the hem?), dresses, pencil skirts, jeans etc would be useful to some newbie readers like me. I understand that a lot of your readers prefer slouchy or fluid fits so it is a territory that is very individual, however, there may be some readers like me, who prefer a fitted look. Thank you!

November 13, 2013 at 12:03 am

Alexandra

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Veteran

Good for you, Angie, for buying what you need (real life) vs what you want (ideal life). I think that takes some serious self-reflection and acceptance. And time, too. I am hoping to get to that point soon but with our frequent moves (every 2-3 years), my understanding of my new needs (different climate, stay-home vs office-job…) takes a while and then it takes a while more still to develop a strategy and fill those holes.

I am proud of myself for adding some serious color to my somber wardrobe of black and gray this year – lime green. I have a sweater, a cardigan, a fleece jacket, and several scarves in this color, and even some peridot jewelry to coordinate. I wear at least one of these pieces probably seven days out of ten. Yay, color!

November 13, 2013 at 12:25 am

Diane G

What a great idea for a blog post. And well done Angie for recognising you real need for more sweaters and putting on the blinkers for silky tops.
As for me, well, firstly getting my style descriptor of Elegant Eclectic was great because it helped me to realise that it’s ok that I feel drawn to so many different styles. Secondly, realising the importance of more jackets and coats for English iffy weather and ditto shoes. And lastly I am beginning to ‘get’ the importance of more neutrals in a wardrobe, in order to be able to add cohesion to it. I loved my white jeans for this and now in the Autumn, I’m beginning to get a liking for grey and believe it or not… black! I’m only adding black in small amounts and not near my face, but after about 15 years without it that’s not bad going

November 13, 2013 at 1:05 am

RoseandJoan

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Due to certain circumstances I decided to take a step back from fashion and began to dress a little bit on autopilot but recently I have started to flind real enjoyment in the process again. Replaceing pressure with pleasure has been my biggest achievement.

November 13, 2013 at 1:58 am

Day Vies

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I am really pleased that I have integrated what I used to deem work clothes and “play” clothes into some pretty fabulous outfits. I have also honed my personal style, developed a moniker that describes it, and have continued to pair down my wardrobe so that it accurately reflects my personal style. I Have overcome my weakness for buying things for just their color or just because it sparkles and shines. Yay, good for me

November 13, 2013 at 3:19 am

Caro in Oz

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For the first time in years I have a capsule hot weather wardrobe that feels like me. Now I just need some consistent hot weather to do a proper test run.

November 13, 2013 at 3:26 am

rute

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I’ve learned so much at YLF that I don’t even know where to start.
I had a weekness for silk dresses, I finally understood that this is not pratical for my life. Our summer is too hot for them, our winter is too cold. pieces that are dry clean only are not practical.
I’m slowly understanding my style, learning which pieces make me happy and which pieces I won’t use.

November 13, 2013 at 3:27 am

El Cee

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This past year, my two major fashion-related accomplishments have been to upgrade my loungewear/around-the-house capsule and to fully organize my closet.

November 13, 2013 at 3:46 am

Astrid

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I think the most important thing was that I realised that I shouldn’t be too hard on myself about how long this whole process takes and that there was a lot of change for the better, even if it didn’t feel like it. Now I’m more relaxed about it all and that is a good thing!

November 13, 2013 at 3:49 am

Eliza

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This year, I have both tended and created fussy feet when shopping ever so carefully for footwear. Worth every mile.

I have also welcomed different style pants into my closet to great effect. Thanks, YLF, for showing me the power of fluidity.

November 13, 2013 at 4:02 am

skylurker

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I’ve followed my shopping plan :
replacing my old jeans (too wide, too short, too faded) with current ones
replacing old casual shoes with refined shoes
replacing classic silk scarves with colorful, graphic pashminas.

I finally stopped buying summer skirts and dresses, admitted I can’t pull them off and moved on (to bermudas).

November 13, 2013 at 4:12 am

MRL

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I’m paying more attention to fit. In addition, I ask myself “do I really love this”?, is it really flattering?” Before I buy anything. Just those 2 small things have made me look and feel so much better in my clothes.

November 13, 2013 at 4:39 am

Ruth

Patting myself on the back for:

Making more planned purchases and less impulse buys, which has resulted in fewer buying mistakes.

Sticking to a color palette that flatters me and has more mix-and-match versatility.

Discovering I like leopard print after all. It took me a long time to get to this stage, so this is a biggie. I still only like it in small doses, but it has finally made it into my wardrobe.

November 13, 2013 at 4:45 am

lyn67

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Finding 3(!!!) pants this year!
One in Spring, and 2 this fall (1 black, actually an almost invisible grey pinstripes-more like a texture only and trust me, this values soooo much for actually lovering it’s otherwise dressy vibe-and for the second a teal green brocade ankle pant for dreesier occasions). So, I am trilled of beeing able to wear some trousers again!!!
Pls. Angie, pat my back vigurously cause for a few years now I was only a skirt/dresses girl thinking it’s impossible to find pants which flatter my bod!

Otherwise, after almost 5 yrs. on YLF, lots of attention given to my wardrobe (and new purchases), this year was the first when I really felt happiness almost constantly through the year being able to dress myself fully appropiate to my age, wheather conditions, life functions (AND mood!).
My clothes and outfits finally are giving me joy day after day, which I find a huge accomplishment for a 46 yrs old with apple tendencies.

And for the small (but ever so bold!) print: after getting so much valuable advice on my troubles with my hair and cut, I finally got to go for, accept and even like a shorter in the back do-so maybe one of my long time frump factor seems to be excluded.

Huh, sorry for the long post-should have made a separate thread on this, but you’ve preceded me!:-)

November 13, 2013 at 5:01 am

cinnamon fern

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I have started to wear white, which I avoided for years. My favored mixed dark neutrals look SO MUCH BETTER with some white mixed in!

November 13, 2013 at 5:28 am

Lynn Mally

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Active Member

I sew most of my clothes, which you would think would be an easy way to plan a coordinated wardrobe. Unfortunately, the siren song of gorgeous fabric often gets me off track. On a sewing site I belong to, one seamstress issues a challenge every season–sew six items that create a capsule wardrobe. Although it was hard do this in the beginning, it has really changed how I sew and how I dress. I now make plans, look for combinations, and can reach into my closet for things that work together.

November 13, 2013 at 6:15 am

Linda

Active Member

I began to really look at my lifestyle and started buying more clothing for work and weekends rather than feeling the need to always buy a new dress for a wedding, shower, or party. Somehow, I always focused on an upcoming “event” and spent my wardrobe budget on a new dress that might only be worn once or twice a year. Now I purchase items that will work together and be worn often. Even though I’m spending the same amount of money, I have a much more functional wardrobe!

November 13, 2013 at 6:15 am

clearlyclaire

I guess my biggest accomplishment this year has been spending more money than I’m accustomed to in order to get some really great eyewear, coats, shoes and jeans. These items are forming the backbone of my outfits and it was money well spent! Thank you so much Angie and YLF for helping me to choose them.

November 13, 2013 at 6:18 am

Von

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I think that this year, I’ve realized it’s ok to embrace my shape. I have a very good friend who has lost over 100lbs and she is constantly telling me “if I had what you have…” all the while I had spent my time saying “If I had what they had…” or “If I could only get rid of this butt…these hips…this chest”. Or worse, “if I was smaller”. But, In really taking a hard look back at myself over the years, I realize that when I was at my smallest, I had the very same gripes. I lead a very active lifestyle, I work out and eat far healthier than 95% of the people I know, and if this is the shape I’m working with, so be it.

I finally started taking a more critical look at the things I bought and how they made me feel. If I feel my legs look huge in a pair of pants…then maybe those are too small, and not the right shape. I’m no longer afraid to go up a size to get the correct fit, just afraid of a number – it doesn’t matter nobody is down in my pants being critical but me :). I now know why I look like sponge bob in a shift dress, and can’t wear tops with no bust shaping.

I’ve lived for years trying to hide it to avoid unwanted comments, cat-calls and looks from men + women, and I’m finally realizing it’s not up to me to make everyone else comfortable with seeing some curves every now and then. I’m still trying to FULLY embrace that concept, but I’m getting there. Case in point – I have 6 pencil skirts I have yet to wear because I am waiting for the right (whatever) to make them look acceptable for work. (I’m sure they look fine though!).

Being here has helped a ton, I lurked here on and off for a year before finally jumping in, and I love the positive feedback that I see from everyone. I realize we all have our own personal issues to work through, and having like-minded people say “no, it’s fine…wear it!” makes a HUGE difference some mornings when I want to desperately run back to the closet.

November 13, 2013 at 6:23 am

Koki2

Active Member

My success has been that I can now put words to how I like to dress, and by articulating it I can now embrace, enhance and refine it. Put simply – I don’t like to wear a lot of clothes! I like to wear as few pieces as possible for the day which means each piece has to carry its own function and interest.

A typical day for me in the fall in the DC area means jeans, a cashmere top (I can’t wear wool), some earrings and my wedding ring. Within those items I have learned to pay more attention to fit, color, fabric, and texture to bring interest. Since my basic silhouette is so simple I also like to add more interest with high-quality shoes and handbags, and I’m re-building my coat wardrobe along the same lines. Since my work takes me outside a fair amount I need to be stylish as well as warm.

I am also sorry to realize that as much as I love looking at a beautiful scarf, I just don’t like wearing them. I strongly dislike having that extra piece on my body, it makes me feel claustrophobic! Kind of like Angie’s silky blouses vs warm knitwear dilemma, we must dress for what is and not for what we imagine.

November 13, 2013 at 6:56 am

Gooselady

Moving packing up all my stuff, makes me not want to buy anything for a while. And when I a ready to shop again I want it to be articles I will gets lot of use off. And it made me realize I have many things that I like but don’t wear because they are to “fussy”

November 13, 2013 at 7:12 am

Amy

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I didn’t want to be so “boring” that I worried about figure flattery, but once I acknowledged that that was a priority of mine, I’ve been much happier with my outfits. Iay be conventional, but I’m comfortable with how I present myself to the world. Being overly self-conscious is not stylish.

November 13, 2013 at 7:27 am

Mary Beth (formerly LBD)

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Four things for me, which have brought me a lot of joy and enjoyment in getting dressed every day, instead of feeling stressed or uncomfortable in my own skin:

1. Streamlining my look and my wardrobe: using Pinterest to create boards for outfits I would wear exactly as styled, and creating a redhead board to examine makeup and colors that suit my current coloring – this has helped me discover and commit to a look that I love. Which in turn has helped me with…

2. Budgeting and not overshopping. Angie’s PPP posts, her continual emphasis on quality, and her way of breaking down what seems impossibly complicated, into ideas that let me shop my closet – I can’t begin to imagine how much time, money, and physical space this has saved me! Which leads to the next thing…

3. Wardrobe Curation: The ideas I have found in these forums have been invaluable. I have been able to get three closets of clothing down to something far more manageable. It has to be a ’10’ for happiness, a ’10’ for fit, and at least a ‘9’ for condition, to have a place in my closet.

4. Having the courage to show my curves, and not try to mask them or hide them. Having the courage to wear my beautiful things, and my bolder pieces. This is kind of a big deal for me – to wear stuff instead of letting it moulder in the closet, and to wear the awesome shoes, or the killer leather skirt or jacket, and to h*ll with timidity.

This would not have happened for me, without Youlookfab. I have found so much inspiration on this site and the forums! All of the ladies here (and our occasional gents), bring so much to the party, in a friendly enthusiastic, creative atmosphere. The SYCs, the curating, the Friday Blogs, all the ideas that everyone brings to the mix – it has made style so much fun! I love you all

November 13, 2013 at 7:41 am

Catnip

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My biggest achievement has been joining YLF. And yes, I will post some pictures as soon as I resolve the photography problems, hopefully within the next week.

I’ve also done a massive closet purge, leaving me with a minimal wardrobe of wearable items that I at least like. And I’ve moved closer to developing a personal style and wardrobe that suits my retirement life.

Thank you, Angie, for all of your wonderful advice and support!

November 13, 2013 at 7:44 am

Aleta

Active Member

This is such a lovely post, everybody finding something positive that they have achieved.

As for myself I have to say that it is finally deciding to join YLF!

November 13, 2013 at 7:50 am

milehighstyle (Linda)

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I think the biggest thing for me has been a lot of purging. Things I don’t wear often – work trousers, lightweight or short sleeve cardigans – have been cut down by half. Realizing that I can live with much less is very freeing and I now find myself constantly reevaluating things in my closet (do I love it or am I keeping it out of guilt at the money I’ve spent on it? And why did I buy it in three colors?). Having a closet full of only the things I love and that work for me and that I can find feels great.

November 13, 2013 at 7:55 am

cheryl

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I finally found knee high boots that fit my wide calves and I finally found a faux leather moto jacket so I have been able to inject a little edge which I long for.

I have also learned to embrace my curves and wear things that accentuate them instead of hide them.

November 13, 2013 at 7:58 am

rae

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I really had to think about this, since I’ve been feeling so guilty about spending this much $$ on myself – even though the bank account feels fine. So I guess I owe myself a little pat for not being a Scrooge and investing in my professional wardrobe, avoiding the lure of cheap flea market thrills, and babying my feet.

November 13, 2013 at 7:59 am

AnnieMouse

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My major milestones:

** I’ve finally given up on buying things that I “should” have in my wardrobe in favour of buying things that I love and know I’ll wear.

** I’ve documented most of my outfits for 185 of the last 249 days – and realised that yes, I *do* wear most of the wardrobe I’d always felt so guilty about.

** I’ve continued to do my quarterly cull – and resisted MUCH temptation for new tees, when I realised how rarely I get the opportunity to wear them.

** I talked myself out of multiple purchases that my partner encouraged as “different” when I looked at similarities to what I have in my closet already (and which would I prefer, because it would come down to choosing between them). <– this one is HUGE for me, because I am an unabashed duplicator.

November 13, 2013 at 8:01 am

Angie

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Fashion Stylist

What a therapeutic read. I’m lovingly patting you all on the back. Well done. Your achievements are very meaningful.

Tanveer, I’ve covered many of those topics already. Have a browse through the FIT category:

http://youlookfab.com/category/advice/fit/

Diane G, thanks for the validation.

My heart is happy knowing that YLF makes a positive difference. Thanks for the shout outs.

November 13, 2013 at 8:01 am

kkards

Veteran

no major epiphanys, but i have been much more disciplined about purging, and i have felt freer to experiment and try things slighting outside of my comfort zone.

November 13, 2013 at 9:17 am

Lisa

Veteran

This year I’ve added lots of prints to my wardrobe. I’ve typically added prints with scarves, but adding a print on the top itself really is a fun look. And this works really well in the summer months to add interest to outfits without layering.

November 13, 2013 at 9:20 am

parkmommychic

One realization this year is realizing it is ok to edit (ruthlessly) my closet. No more trying to make things that are almost right work, or buying things to salvage the almost right things which then both don’t work! My closet is becoming a happier place!

November 13, 2013 at 9:36 am

Hil

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Patting myself on the back for joining the forum!!!

I’ve become more analytical about what I wear and why they work or don’t. Thinking before I shop although I may have become overly cautious too.

I’ve started refining my style although I have a long way to go. I’ve broadened my horizons by trying out tube skirts, semi tucks, adding colour.

November 13, 2013 at 10:15 am

Stuti

Active Member

I have learned so much. Thanks to YLF.
Patting myself for ruthless purging and closet organizing.
Loving my closet.
Going outside my comfort zone.
Wearing my orphan skirts and adding some more since I love the look.
Adding knee high boots (def out of comfort zone initially)
Not saving good clothes for special occasion.
Dressing up and put together even just picking up DS from preschool.
And I now actually have a list of things I need instead of random purchase because color is nice
Thank you Angie and all you ladies

November 13, 2013 at 10:27 am

nancylee

Veteran

I finally nailed down what colors suit me (with the help of a professional color analyst!) after wandering around clueless for years. I’ve weeded out the worst offenders (dusty/muddy colors) in my wardrobe and am in the process of adding new, more flattering colors gradually. It’s fun to work with my focused color palette to find new colors that both suit and please me, like tomato red and bright marigold.

November 13, 2013 at 11:24 am

Elbe

I always wear silk/wool/angora undershirts in the winter. They keep you warm and you can still wear blouses. : )

November 13, 2013 at 11:46 am

DonnaF

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I’ve learned that solid gray (and before that, solid black) is not necessarily the most *practical* color and should not be my default. I already have so much black and gray that a colored piece is likely to be more versatile, not to mention flattering. I’ve also become an enthusiastic pattern mixer and have learned here that some patterns can actually function as solids. Third, I have internalized that I deserve to look nice every day and not *save* 99% of my wardrobe, even if it is *only* my husband and the UPS guy who will see me.

Thank you Angie and YLF for helping me put together more interesting outfits. It is a bit embarrassing that people from/at church comment pretty regularly on WIW, but for me there’s no turning back. Besides, nearly all that old stuff (some dating back to the ’80s!!!) has been purged.

November 13, 2013 at 12:22 pm

rholmes27

Active Member

Finding YLF started my personal style journey, so thanks to you all.

In 2013, I’m most pleased that i created a wardrobe plan and stuck to it 90% of the time when shopping.

November 13, 2013 at 12:50 pm

Cindy

Active Member

I think the big thing for me has been realizing that I deserve nice clothes. I didn’t want to accept that my body had changed so I was wearing ill-fitting clothes. Since I rarely leave the house, I didn’t think that it mattered what I looked like. I have learned that I feel better when I look better and that comfortable can still look nice. I even bought some pretty pajamas that I can wear on the days that I just can’t bear to put “real clothes” on! LOL

November 13, 2013 at 12:55 pm

CocoLion

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Veteran

I am patting myself on the back for making a trip down to LA to meet Angie and Greg! They are both incredibly smart, kind, gorgeous/handsome and stylish. (Please Greg, rent me some of that terrific thick hair of yours.) This trumps any improvements I’ve made in personal style, shopping or dressing by like …. 1000%.

November 13, 2013 at 1:25 pm

Angie

(website)

Fashion Stylist

Cocolion, you win best comment on this thread. You are amazingly gracious with your words. And hilarious. Thank you.

November 13, 2013 at 4:38 pm

barbara

Member

The big change to my fashion this is year retiring from a semi-corporate job to spending my days on my farm….in the barn, the garden, etc.
So of course my daily work clothes now look alot different than they did a few months ago! While I don’t regret leaving the corporate world one bit, I do (unexpectedly) miss wearing dress clothes every day. Stylish clothes don’t matter any more… my horse doesn’t care what I am wearing as long as I feed him!

November 13, 2013 at 6:32 pm

peacechick

Veteran

I downloaded Stylebook and started photographing every wardrobe item I own. Doing this has help me become conscious of how many clothes I own, what I love and what I don’t, and to create ensembles. Without doing this, I don’t think I would be purging or shopping with any style goals in mind.

And of course, coming here to YLF and learning from everyone.

November 13, 2013 at 8:49 pm

goldenpig

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I made it through pregnancy and postpartum while wearing mostly non-maternity clothes that I could wear before and after, maintaining my sense of style, and still having fun with fashion! I was really apprehensive before, but now I feel more confident that I can rise to the challenges and the changes that life brings.

November 13, 2013 at 9:17 pm

rachylou

Veteran

Well, you’d never know by the current looks of my wardrobe, but I’ve given away an enormous amount of clothing. After two-three years, my mum’s basement is seeing the light of day and the clothing bins no longer tower overhead. There are empty bins stacked inside each other even (!)

I’ve also, I feel, focused my style a lot in 3-D terms (not just in my head), while still having enough variety to wander a bit. Looking in my closet, I see have a basic template now – and the style of things gives me a sense of satisfaction and what I’ve got is weighted towards how I actually spend my time.

In other words, I think I’ve put theory into practice a little. In the concrete.

Also – I jettisoned girly. No more hanging onto ruffles, bows, and general foofiness. Ok… well, I’ve a couple of bows in the form of plastic rings…

November 14, 2013 at 10:25 am

Marley

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I have just spent the last 30 minutes reading everyone’s comments – and am so impressed and inspired! Sooooo many positive things that we can pat ourselves on the back for! Sounds like its been a productive year for many YLFabbers!
I have had to take my time in responding to this question Angie – as you know, I am intuitive by nature, and so I had not really put any of my “successes” or “accomplishments” into words – I just knew that my wardrobe, my shopping strategy, my closet, my daily outfits – just all felt better!
If I were to try to describe what changed it would be the following:
1) Earlier this year I came off of 2-1/2 years of SYC – and still had plenty of nice clothes, footwear, etc. – so, it really hit me that I didn’t really need anything – it was just a matter of want – and that made a big difference in my attitude towards shopping. I slowed waaaaay down, was much, much more picky and patient – and really set the standard that anything I added to my wardrobe had to earn its place into my closet. It was just so much simpler!
2) I spent 3 months (last spring) recording my daily outfits in an Excel spreadsheet – tracking what I wore, event I wore it for, cost-per-wear, and happiness factor. For those outfits that didn’t rate at least a 9 in the happiness factor, I never wore again. Granted I wore separates from the outfit – but never repeated the outfit. I found that by doing that I felt great – everyday! Never a sloppy, frumpy, boring day – and it was so much fun!
3) Hair – I committed to a new/different hairstyle in September of 2012 and gradually grew into that style over this past year. Needless to say, it was quite painful – and up until about 2 weeks ago – when I finally got the cut that I was trying to achieve, and the products that tamed the frizz and gave me body – I arrived! After a good 3 to 4 days/week of “bad-hair” days, I’m now consistently enjoying the exact style that I want – everyday! Also, the style that I committed to is a little more edgy/funky than I’ve worn in the past – and therefore, has altered the way that I dress. I’ve found that I can wear very simple, classic silhouettes and still pack a real “punch” in the style department! I think that my hairstyle speaks volumes about my personality and my style.
4) I accepted the fact that there is a sporty streak to my style. In spite of the fact that I’ve been very athletic my entire life – always participating in sports – for some reason I fought with that part of my personality and style! This year – perhaps with the sassy sneaker trend? – I embraced it and just feel so much more like my true self!
5) Either I became more trendy in my style – or, I just really, really liked the trends this year – but whatever it was – I definitely jumped on a LOT of the trends this year! Pastels and mid-tones (particularly pink and blue), silky tees, white on white (gulp!), “dressy” sweatshirts,” track pants, ankle straps, white footwear, etc. It also may have been due to my 2-1/2 years of SYC that made me feel such a strong compulsion to go with the trends this year!
6) Colors – finally something besides citron, tomato red, and neon green! So very happy about the blues and pinks and berries and burgundies and emerald greens! I honed down my colors to primarily blue, pink and berry or burgundy – and that made shopping and capsule creation so much easier and fun!
7) Lastly – white. Angie – you sold me on white. Prior to this year – I stayed away from it – particularly for jeans or trousers. It just looked so frumpy to me – and then to add more white to the already frumpy bottoms? Oh dear god, Help Me! But you continued to encourage us all – and to post some beautiful white outfits of your own – and I finally dipped my toe in the water with a white TR Cameron Vintage Boyfriend jean – and I surprisingly liked them – a lot! So, then I bought a cream pair of Paige Troy Boys (slouchy skinnies) and I liked them too! Then, I bought the white JC cut-out ankle booties – and I was a complete white convert! I just couldn’t get enough of it – in all shades and textures – it just made my heart sing – AND it went so well with my blues, pinks, and berries! So – thank you Angie!
OK – for someone who thought she couldn’t put into words what she had accomplished in her “fashion-life” this year, I think I did pretty good! Thank you for asking the question Angie – its been a good exercise for me – and gives me some direction for 2014!

November 14, 2013 at 12:38 pm

L'Abeille

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I discovered YLF as an almost-empty-nester–my 3 girls who provided my fashion feedback were all gone and my son was no help! In my something-over-a-year here, these are the 2 biggest changes to my wardrobe:

1. I took Angie’s advice and duplicated the items that were creating bottlenecks in my wardrobe: namely, white shirts. Now that I don’t have to “save” them for work days, I can easily wear a white shirt layered with a sweater and jeans on Saturday, or with a sheath dress or full skirt on Sunday, and feel like “me” a lot more consistently.

2. Realizing that Breton T’s could be used as a staple. This is maybe a bit of trends happening to coincide with where I am to begin with, and may not last. But my ever-vaster collection of nautical striped tops is now showing up outside boating hours–even at work, or with a dressy outfit, or in winter. And along with that, the permission to wear black and navy together deliberately.

The upshot of the above 2 changes is that my wardrobe no longer falls so neatly into capsules–work/play, summer/winter–so I have a lot more elements to play around with and combine into outfits.

The other changes I have made: more attention to shoes (they still HAVE to be comfortable for a day on my feet but I am no longer afraid to wear heels or trendier styles if they fit the bill)–although this may reflect a better availability recently of really gorgeous shoes in my hard to find sizes and finicky price points.

And, I now ALWAYS look in a full length mirror before I leave the house, which may make me late if I discover something doesn’t work as I thought!

November 14, 2013 at 1:53 pm

T

Active Member

Thank you Angie

November 14, 2013 at 6:59 pm

Angela K

Veteran

Such wonderful, insightful comments. I don’t really know where to begin myself. Except to say that I agree with others that finding and finally(!) joining YLF is one of the most positive changes I’ve made. I now realize that as a 49 year old that I don’t have to worry about looking too young, too frumpy etc. if I just remain true to my style. This however does mean that I need to ruthlessly purge my closet–something that I have been working on but not seriously enough. Also I want to give attention to buying quality items rather than just anything new that catches my eye. Way to many of those in the past and I now can admit that it is truly a waste. I absolutely love thrift shopping but again I am being more selective in my purchases–I know it’s easy to buy a designer item when it’s only $3 but now I ask myself “Do I love this?” “Will it work with the wardrobe I am building?” “Will I actually wear it?” or “Am I just buying it because it’s such a great deal and I hate to leave it in the store?” I now realize that it’s not a deal for me if I don’t love it, and I don’t wear it. Huge accomplishment! Thanks Angie and all the YLFers that have helped me over this first hurdle. Now on to the purge!

November 15, 2013 at 7:44 am

viva

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I have so much work ahead of me — capsule building, outfit-tracking, purging — that I will mostly pat myself on the back for the insights I’ve gained since joining here a few months ago.
1. Long pants are okay. I used to cuff my jeans with booties, and while that is kind of cute in a James Dean kind of way, Angie made me realize the value of the scrunch. Have not cuffed since joining.
2. It’s good to take advice from people with totally different style points of view. Sometimes I feel like the only ones who “understand me!!!” are the ones who are just like me. So. Not. True.
3. When you don’t know, it’s okay to ask. Angie, thanks for explaining “fluidity” to this very slow learner.
4. Having style may not mean having “a” style. I’m not really sure how to describe myself style-wise, but I do feel I am emerging with a stronger sense of the things I like and the things I don’t. But I’m not a one-tracker, for sure. I like a clean suit, I like a mod dress, I like mixing patterns, I like boyfriend jeans and silver booties. Where does that leave me? I don’t know and it’s okay.

Thanks for everything, Angie AND everyone.

November 15, 2013 at 9:19 am

Angie

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Fashion Stylist

Wow. Brilliant achievements, ladies. Lots of back patting from me to you. And thanks for the kind words too.

Marley, I am much impressed with your write up. Well done.

November 15, 2013 at 10:22 am

lava

Active Member

Realizing that not every shopping trip has to result in a buy.

November 15, 2013 at 11:04 pm

Jewell

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Great comments by all! I had to think about this for a few days before responding. The following have made a huge difference this year:
-self-imposed ban on new wardrobe purchases in black
-several months of SYC
-signing up for blog updates so I never miss one of Angie’s awesome outfit or advice posts

November 16, 2013 at 7:22 am

Scarlet

Veteran

I am patting myself on the back for keeping up more or less with all the body changes pregnancy and giving birth entail. Now I realize I am ready for a more mature style than before.

November 16, 2013 at 10:25 am

Vicki

(website)

Veteran

I’m patting myself on the back for finding you and this amazing community when all I was looking for was a cute haircut!

My world opened up and will never be the same. I’ve learned about myself as I’ve had the courage to see and explore fashion with the help of Angie’s expertise and guidance. Then, I discovered all these fabulous and helpful women on the forum.

I’m continually refining my look as I grow and mature in the process. I enjoy my casual chic nature and what I aspire to in the fun days ahead. Let the adventure continue.

November 16, 2013 at 9:28 pm

M-C

I’ve made huge strides toward incorporating my knitting into my wardrobe. That is not just knitting for fun, but knitting items that fit well into my existing clothes and that add interest to them. Can’t believe it’s taken me decades before noticing that I wasn’t :-).

November 19, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Scarlet

Veteran

Wait, I forgot the most important thing, my new glasses!

November 20, 2013 at 11:11 am

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